The first step to stopping the cycle of rudeness is to stop taking rude behavior personally. We all have bad days when the world seems to be beating us down. This happens to all of us, so realizing that the offending person may just be having a bad day can put things into perspective. They may be dealing with something difficult when you just happened to get in their line of fire.
Often you can break the cycle of rudeness by avoiding responding to bad behavior with your own negativity. One of the best ways to defuse rude and negative behavior is to stay friendly and positive. This gives the other person a chance to calm down and adjust their behavior to match yours.
Kindness can be a wonderful antidote to rudeness. Showing kindness to someone who is being surly or insulting to others can be extremely difficult. But by setting a calm and well-mannered example, you can prompt them to follow your lead. Instead, you maintained your cool. A rude and difficult person can create tension and anxiety in themselves and everyone around them.
Humor can create a diversion and break the tension, allowing everyone to laugh it off. You can do this by finding a way to laugh about a common situation or by joking about a shared experience you can all relate to. Self-deprecating humor can also be disarming. Finding a way to insert a little levity when someone is feeling out of sorts may be just the thing to help everyone hit the reset button and begin again on a better note.
Another tactic to stop the spiral of rudeness is to simply call them out on their behavior and ask them to stop. If someone you can't get away from is consistently rude to you, you need to address the issue directly. There is no need for you to take ongoing abuse from anyone.
You should never allow anyone to treat you in a disrespectful way. Have a conversation about what is going on. Does the person realize how hurtful his or her actions are to you?
Take the time to find out what triggered the rudeness. Try to curb your instinctive response and stop yourself from retaliating. Removing yourself from the challenging situation is the most effective way to avoid being in the firing line for more rude behavior from the same person. Remember that you may unknowingly be guilty of upsetting people from other cultures by acting in a way which you consider to be quite normal. This gives the other person a chance to calm down and readjust their behavior.
Perhaps you can, in a small way, reverse the cycle and spread some joy instead! The happy truth about human beings is that the majority are decent people who are occasionally so overwhelmed by circumstances that they lash out verbally and take out their frustration on innocent parties. Dealing with rude and mean people requires bucket loads of empathy and patience. This may sound like the responsibility to change lies with you and not the other person.
Consider, though, what the alternative would be: respond rudely and give them an actual reason in the future to do the same to you. I truly believe, however, that humankind can only continue to exist happily on our ever more crowded home planet if the majority of people treat each other with kindness, respect, and empathy.
But, if you find yourself in a toxic environment, you may need to get out altogether. An unhealthy workplace will take a toll on your well-being — no matter how much mental strength you possess. This is a BETA experience. You may opt-out by clicking here. More From Forbes. Nov 12, , am EST. Sometimes it is best — and if you have the amount of self-control of course — to just completely ignore this person and their comments. But … bear in mind that when calling a rude person out, they might end up turning the table, or make you sound like you are exaggerating things.
They might tell you:. Sad as it may sound, rude people are everywhere around, and surprisingly some may find pleasure in being rude; it gives them a fake sense of superiority. If anything, you should feel sorry for them. Shut the rudeness down yes, but do it with class.
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